We have a Winner!

2014-04-15 14.44.40I printed all the comments of those who entered the giveaway and placed them in a bowl. Master picked one out today.  The winner is HappyHarpy!   Congratulations!

I have emailed you, HappyHarpy, so please check your email to see if you have received anything from danaewhispering@yahoo.com.  If you haven’t, please email me.  Again Congratulations!

A BIG BIG thank you to all that entered! Please remember we will be doing 5 more giveaway’s in 2014.  The next one will start in early May.


Half Anniversary

Six moIMG_9557nths! Tomorrow marks 6 months with Sir and Danae. Whoot! Where did the time go? So much has occurred. So much has changed. In such a short space of time. I can’t even begin to imagine what 6 years might bring!

As I sat at my desk, this morning, the door to the office hesitantly cracked open. I looked up to tell whomever is most likely lost, “Come in” in my friendly receptionist voice. Sir’s face peeks around the corner of the door just as I finish my invitation. I excitedly get up to usher him in when I see Danae is behind him! This was an unexpected and very welcome visit.

As he fully appears around the door, I can see he is holding flowers! I wonder what the occasion is, but am too excited to see them to worry about the flowers. I reach for the two of them as he hands me the flowers and I realize Danae is holding flowers, too. I ask what they are for and if Danae had gotten some as well. They both shake their heads while telling me that they are for our anniversary and both vases are for me. I blankly look at the two of them, long enough, that Danae explains tomorrow is the 10th – our 6 month anniversary! I unsuccessfully attempt to catch the squeal as it spills from my ear-to-ear grin…..and hold the flowers…..and hug them…..all at the same time! They laugh and we all hug, as the warmth of our love surrounds us there in my normal, everyday office space. What a wonderful surprise!

What a wonderful life! I am blessed beyond words to have Sir and Danae in my life and honored to have the opportunity to be in theirs. To share experiences, both good and not-so-good. To hold and be held. To do common household chores together. To sit in each others’ company. To do art and write poetry together. To just be. Together. It is such a wonder!

Tonight, we returned to the place it slowly began between us. We sat at the same table in a local pizza place and enjoyed dinner. We laughed and marveled at the changes. We giggled and chuckled at the heady emotion that surrounded us. We celebrated the moments that had been and were currently passing. The food was lovely. The memories were a lot of fun. (Surprisingly, there are quite a few in only 6 months!) The love was almost visible.

Hey, world! Guess what?? I’m in love! I’m loved! I could stand on a mountain top, dancing and twirling, while singing of it to all of you. I am bursting with joy and excitement. The smile won’t leave my face. Concentration to type is difficult, but this is an occasion to be earmarked. One of many more to come, I’m sure.

Happy six months, Sir! Happy six months, Danae! May blessings rain down upon you both. I love you. I treasure you.

within Reality’s Birthday Giveaway!

GIVEAWAY is Closed. We have a Winner!

In 2004, Master and I were on our way to Denver when the conversation about websites came up.  The more we talked, the more we liked the idea about maybe starting a website to have all our various writings from over the year in one place.  We wanted a name that fit our journey. We brainstormed names, but kept coming back to one name – withinReality.com

There’s no one “right way” to discover one’s reality, many people think this lifestyle is a fantasy or that it can’t be done in real life. Well, not only do we think it can be lived – within reality, we believe that it goes beyond the orgasm, beyond the titillating fantasies, and other masturbational fodder we read on the internet. Reality reminds us that life has bills, work (sometimes more then one jobs), floors to scrub, counters to clean, laundry to tend to, and cars to be serviced. We can have kinky fun, we can have kinky relationships – while doing all the daily realities of life in general.

This year Master and I are celebrating 10 years of having the website.  We will be doing 6 giveaways this year in celebration. We want to give back to the kinky community, who have given us so much over the many many years we have been following this path.

Twithinrealitycuffs 3he first giveaway is a set of leather wrist and ankle cuffs.  The cuffs are made of leather and have a faux fur lining,  the wrist cuffs are 15″ long, the ankle cuffs are 17 3/4″ long,  both sets are 2 1/2″ wide, adjustable, with a buckle closure, and D-ring attachment point.




One (1) person will win a brand new set of leather wrist and ankle cuffs. 

This giveaway is limited to those folks living in the US (sorry out of country folks!). Please make sure you have a valid email when you enter your comment. To enter this giveaway, just answer the following question in the Comments section of this post: What kind of bondage or restraints do you enjoy or want to try?

Want to get some extra entries for the giveaway? Post a blog note on FetLife, Twitter update, or blog post with a link to this post and then leave a separate comment here with a link to where you posted it.  You may post on all 3 forms of social media, but leave a separate comment for each so you can have 4 total entries if you do each.

So to enter to win again in the comments with a valid email – answer this question: What kind of bondage or restraints do you enjoy or want to try?  

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Twitter –  Do an update with a link to this post, come back and comment again, including a link to your status update about the giveaway and a valid email address.

FetLife Blog post  – Do your post about the giveaway including a link to this post, come back and comment again, including a link to your post about the giveaway and a valid email address.

Blog post everywhere else – Do your post about the giveaway including a link to this post, come back and comment again, including a link to your post about the giveaway and a valid email address.

A winner will be picked April 15, 2014. All entries posted by April 15, 2014 12am mountain time will be included in the drawing.

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Yes it’s Valentine’s Day … but?

Valentine’s Day has always been a strange time for me.  I haven’t had the best of luck with relationships going into the month of February – so the meaning diminished a bit before danae came along.  Like a ray of sunshine, she illuminated it and made it special.  🙂

The thing about Valentine’s Day is a lot of people be lovey dovey on the day – but why not make that a part of your every day?  If you’re in love with the person or people you’re with, then every day becomes Valentine’s Day!  From cuddling to kissing to spending time together to dates — it doesn’t have to be once a year folks.

I’m just lucky and blessed to be with two incredibly wonderful women that remind me that our love for each other doesn’t come once a February … it’s everyday, every way possible that we enjoy the company we keep.

Interview Questions and Anniversary Musings

This is from my old blog dated January 31, 2004….

Music: silence today
Mood: pretty good
Topics: Interview Questions, Week Update, Anniversary musings

Interview Questions from Jen

1. Do you and your Sir have one special symbol, music piece, or something like that which means something significant to you and he. If so, what is it, and what does it mean to you both? If you don’t… would you want one?

Yes it is the one I post on my journal often. Feels Like Home by Chantel Kreviazuk. For our 5th month anniversary I printed it out with graphics and such and we framed it and hangs in the dining room.

2. If you had to go on the TV FoodNetwork to do a cooking show and had to pick one recipe that you cook fantastically… what would that be and please share the recipe with the rest of us *G*

First, I would never want to be on TV making a recipe….icky…I am sure I would get stage fright and screw up. But lets see…I guess I would probably make Cream Puffs. As it is something I like to make and everyone always likes.

Cream Puffs
1 cup water
½ cup margarine or butter
1 cup all purpose flour
4 eggs

Heat oven to 400 degrees. Heat water and margarine to a rolling boil in a 2-½ quart saucepan. Stir in flour; reduce heat. Stir vigorously over low heat about 1 minute or until mixture forms a ball; remove from heat. Beat in eggs, all at once; continue beating until smooth. Drop dough by scant ¼ cupfuls about 3 inches apart onto ungreased cookie sheet.

Bake 35 to 40 minutes or until puffed and golden brown. Cool away from draft. Cut off top one-third of each puff and pull out any filaments of soft dough. Fill puffs with chocolate cream filling. Replace tops and dust with powdered sugar. Refrigerate until serving time. Refrigerate any remaining puffs. 12 cream puffs.

Chocolate Cream Filling

1 ¼ cup sugar
½ cup flour
3 cups whole milk
3 squares unsweetened chocolate
4 egg yolks
3 tbls butter
1 ½ tsp. vanilla

In a medium saucepan over medium heat, combine sugar and flour. Stir in milk and chocolate. Cook, stirring constantly, until chocolate melts and mixture thickens. Remove from heat and stir in egg yolks. Return to heat and cook 2 minutes more. Remove from heat and stir in butter and vanilla. Let cool before adding to cream puff.

3. Growing up little girls have all sorts of hopes and dreams… did you have a hope or dream that has turned into a reality for you as an adult? If so, what was it, and how has it manifested itself in your adult life?

Yes, being an artist and selling some of my art was one dream and yes that has happened, but I still don’t feel I am where I want to be with my art. I have had many dreams realized…more are just grown-up dreams.

4. If you could have dinner with any one famous, or infamous person, from any time period… who would it be? Why would you choose them? and what would you serve them?

An artist I think….so many to chose from though…Frida Kahlo, Kathy Kollwitz, Marc Chagall, John William Waterhouse, Gustav Klimt, George Grosz, Picasso.

But it is only one, so I guess, right now it would have to be Frida Kahlo because she is a fascination with me at this time. I believe not only would she have some very insightful things to say about her art and art in general, but her life seemed very interesting. So her stories of her life would be really incredible to hear about. Right now my brain is focused on the dinner I am making for Master for our 1 year anniversary – so I guess that is what keeps coming to mind. A salad to start with balsamic vinegar and then Herb and Salt Crusted Roast, Red Potatoes Roasted with onions and herbs, and a sinful dessert…layers of cream cheese and chocolate.

Okay so Master being the smarty-pants He is….says after He reads my answer to this question. Well, Frida speaks in Spanish so you guys would not be able to talk!

Last but certainly not least…

5. What five items would you put in a time capsule to leave behind so that future generations would be able to tell something about who you were and what you were about?

One of my journal’s maybe one with drawings in it as well as written words – a picture of Master and I – Ellington (a Teddy Bear of mine) – a mix cd – The Valkyries by Paulo Coehlo

Update of Life

I suffered from migraines 2 days this week it was not fun. I know it is just from hormonal changes. On Friday we had someone come inspect our furnace – it was a free inspection. Free is good. Right about the time they were suppose to get here – there was a knock on the door. It was 2 people people trying to “sell their religion.” And that really gets on my nerves. I calmly said that they might as well go to the next house. They said “why?”…I said, “because I have my own beliefs.” Which then the next question from them was, “oh don’t you believe in Jesus?” And I said again, “I have my own beliefs…” and went on to tell that I wished they did not come to our house as I was closing the door.

So then there was a knock about 3 minutes later and it was the heating service person…..I was on the phone with Master telling Him about it. He thinks I give them a hard time – but He laughs about it. Master is so nice chit chatty with them, but for some reason I see them and instantly get peeved.

This week was kind of down for me with my period and the migraines. But Master did spank me the other night. It was very nice and very relaxing for me. Master has been really patient with me this week and I am very grateful. Everything feels like I could cry at the drop of a hat this week. And have been lol

I have been battling with my bread machine each week. The loaf is always sunken…altitude ya know. Anyway, I got some tips on what to do and I thought this last time it would be perfect as it was getting closer and closer each time I made a loaf. But it still sunk a little – not as much so I am getting closer. It just is getting frustrating!

Master has been busy with work today so I have been online. It has been nice to just veg in front of the computer. It is like most people veg in front of a tv I do that with a computer/internet.

Tomorrow is Master and my 1 year anniversary.

To think of it…it actually seems we have been together for long then a year. It feels like sometimes we have been together forever. It is that warm comforting feeling.

Master and I came together feeling this knowing that wow…we are meant for each other. And at times we were scared thinking that other shoe would drop, but as a good friend pointed out to us. We just needed to tie the other shoe on. And we did.

We have not looked back since. It is very strange to have this person in the world that I can be completely myself with….who I know will always be there….who knows how to be with me without trying. Does that make sense?

I love and adore Him. I became His a year ago tomorrow….and I am so happy to be His….

I hope He allows me to serve Him for years and years!

10 Years

7 days after he collared me

We are celebrating 10 years together today. 10 years ago Master picked me up at the airport where we were hugging and kissing like high school kids. I flew into Denver so before we headed to his small town, we  stopped at a fetish store in the big city. When we got out of the car, he had me stand at  right there on the curb.  He reached in his pocket and took out a heavy hardware type chain and lock.  His fingers slipped it around my neck and locked it in place. No words were exchanged.  He lifted my chin to meet his eyes and the unspoken words claimed me as His property. There was no words asking me if I would be his slave. No words of asking for consent.  It was just a knowing of yes this is right for us and claiming me right there. 

I remember I did not touch at first because I knew if I did I would start crying and we were about to be going into a store. So of course I did not want tears in there. Later in the car Master told me to touch it and the tears started flowing in the realization of it – the meaning of it and that I was really owned by Him.  I had felt enslaved to him before that moment, but that moment made it real for me. No denying it.  
I am so thankful for 10 years of serving him and walking this path together. I adore serving him still 10 years later. It has been AMAZING!